Dr. Ruth
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Re: Dr. Ruth
by bobGandalf on Thu May 27, 2010 2:56 pm
Some guy....but the posts are not bs.
"Dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire."
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Re: Dr. Ruth
by bobGandalf on Fri May 28, 2010 3:00 pm
Question:
I am 25 years old and have been with my husband for 5 years. Our relationship is great except for the sex. I have never had an orgasm. I use to enjoy sex, but now I can't enjoy it. I use to be able to get wet on my own, and now we have to use a lubricant. My husband is not small down there, but I really don't have much feeling down there anymore. I use to be able to feel it, and now I can't. It’s frustrating. I have asked the doctor about it but they had no explanation. I really need some help, I want to have a good sex life. I am desperate for any advice you can give me.
Perhaps the reason that you don’t enjoy sex any more is that you’ve never had an orgasm. Obviously this lack of sexual satisfaction is going to affect you, and so over time you’ve become less and less eager to have sex, knowing that it will be at least somewhat frustrating, even if you enjoyed the overall closeness of it. And you may also be harboring some resentment towards your husband for not doing whatever is necessary to give you an orgasm, and that resentment could be subconscious, at least in great part. And sadly, doctors are not given any training in handling sexual matters and many will just shrug off a question about sex because they don’t know what to tell you.
I’m going to give you advice, though it would be better if I knew some more details, but see if this advice helps and if it doesn’t write back to me. What I’m going to suggest to you is to masturbate in order to learn what types of stimulation will produce an orgasm. Once you learn to become orgasmic, you need to teach your husband what to do. In all likelihood you are like most women, you do not get enough clitoral stimulation during intercourse to have an orgasm. So your husband is going to have to learn how to stimulate you in other ways in order to give you orgasms. I believe once the entire experience of having sex with him provides you with sexual satisfaction that this will change your outlook.
I am 25 years old and have been with my husband for 5 years. Our relationship is great except for the sex. I have never had an orgasm. I use to enjoy sex, but now I can't enjoy it. I use to be able to get wet on my own, and now we have to use a lubricant. My husband is not small down there, but I really don't have much feeling down there anymore. I use to be able to feel it, and now I can't. It’s frustrating. I have asked the doctor about it but they had no explanation. I really need some help, I want to have a good sex life. I am desperate for any advice you can give me.
Answer:
Perhaps the reason that you don’t enjoy sex any more is that you’ve never had an orgasm. Obviously this lack of sexual satisfaction is going to affect you, and so over time you’ve become less and less eager to have sex, knowing that it will be at least somewhat frustrating, even if you enjoyed the overall closeness of it. And you may also be harboring some resentment towards your husband for not doing whatever is necessary to give you an orgasm, and that resentment could be subconscious, at least in great part. And sadly, doctors are not given any training in handling sexual matters and many will just shrug off a question about sex because they don’t know what to tell you.
I’m going to give you advice, though it would be better if I knew some more details, but see if this advice helps and if it doesn’t write back to me. What I’m going to suggest to you is to masturbate in order to learn what types of stimulation will produce an orgasm. Once you learn to become orgasmic, you need to teach your husband what to do. In all likelihood you are like most women, you do not get enough clitoral stimulation during intercourse to have an orgasm. So your husband is going to have to learn how to stimulate you in other ways in order to give you orgasms. I believe once the entire experience of having sex with him provides you with sexual satisfaction that this will change your outlook.
"Dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire."
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